The Maintenance of Psychological Problems

The Maintenance of Psychological Problems

February 17, 20253 min read

The Maintenance of Psychological Problems

Understanding How Psychological Problems Develop and Persist

Psychological challenges often stem from deeply ingrained patterns formed during childhood. From a young age, we learn how to navigate the world based on the expectations of those around us. While these coping mechanisms may serve us in the moment, they can later become the foundation of persistent psychological struggles.

How It All Begins: The Development of Self-Worth

As children, our self-worth is largely shaped by the feedback we receive from parents, teachers, and society. When we receive love and validation only when we behave in a certain way, we internalize the belief that our value is conditional. Over time, this can lead to a disconnection from our true selves as we prioritize meeting expectations over authentic self-expression.

The Role of the False Self

Many people grow up suppressing their real emotions and needs in order to be accepted. This can lead to:

  • People-pleasing behaviors – constantly seeking external validation.

  • Fear of rejection – avoiding self-expression due to fear of disapproval.

  • Suppressed emotions – bottling up thoughts and feelings to maintain a "perfect" image.

This false self may provide temporary comfort, but in the long run, it creates inner conflict, anxiety, and low self-esteem.

Defensive Mechanisms: How the Mind Protects Itself

When there is a gap between our true self and the persona we project, the mind often employs defensive mechanisms to cope:

🔹 Denial – Ignoring personal struggles instead of addressing them.
🔹 Distortion – Altering reality to align with our conditioned beliefs.
🔹 Avoidance – Steering clear of situations that challenge our worldview.

These mechanisms may prevent short-term discomfort, but in the long run, they reinforce psychological distress.

The Difference Between Psychological Rigidity and Flexibility

Some individuals can adapt to challenges, reframe negative experiences, and remain open to change. Others, however, feel trapped in rigid, repetitive patterns of thought that keep them stuck. Those who struggle with psychological flexibility often experience:

Overgeneralization – Assuming one bad experience defines their entire future.
Black-and-White Thinking – Viewing life in extremes (e.g., “I am either a success or a failure”).
Emotional Suppression – Avoiding difficult emotions rather than processing them.

Developing psychological flexibility is a key part of therapy and an essential step toward long-term well-being.

Breaking the Cycle: Steps Toward Change

Understanding that psychological struggles are maintained by learned patterns is the first step toward change. Therapy can help individuals:

✨ Recognize and challenge limiting beliefs.
✨ Develop self-compassion and acceptance.
✨ Learn strategies to regulate emotions in a healthy way.
✨ Reconnect with their true and authentic self.

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Monica Stanescu is a compassionate therapist specializing in counseling, psychotherapy, and cognitive-behavioral hypnotherapy. With a focus on a biopsychosocial approach, she helps clients manage anxiety, stress, trauma, and more. Her dedication to mental well-being is shaped by her personal journey, and she is committed to providing personalized care for her clients. Monica’s expertise is backed by her accreditations with reputable organizations like the BPS, GHR, and NCH. She offers both online and in-person therapy, helping individuals lead healthier, more balanced lives.

Monica

Monica Stanescu is a compassionate therapist specializing in counseling, psychotherapy, and cognitive-behavioral hypnotherapy. With a focus on a biopsychosocial approach, she helps clients manage anxiety, stress, trauma, and more. Her dedication to mental well-being is shaped by her personal journey, and she is committed to providing personalized care for her clients. Monica’s expertise is backed by her accreditations with reputable organizations like the BPS, GHR, and NCH. She offers both online and in-person therapy, helping individuals lead healthier, more balanced lives.

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